Friday, May 10, 2013

What is Communication?


As much as I don’t like to admit it sometimes, my husband is a very competent communicator.  He is a very logical thinker and is also very organized and thorough with everything that he does.  He is the type of person that knows what he wants or expects and knows exactly how to get it.

 An example for this is when we were purchasing a car this past year.  Before even entering a dealership, he set criteria for what he expected from the car and spent time researching.  After using the criteria and research, he selected a few choices from various dealerships and emailed to gather information about their product.  When the dealerships made offers to my husband, he presented the offers to the other dealers who also had the same car in which we were interested.  This created competition among the dealers allowing us to get a better deal on the car we were purchasing.  Not only did he email the dealer, he copied all of the correspondences he made to the manager of the dealership as well.  This held the dealers accountable for customer satisfaction.  After he found the best deal for the car that we wanted, he transferred his communication from the dealer, who works on commission from the car, to the finance manager, who works on commission from the loan package.  This allowed us to receive the car at a lower rate than we would have working directly through the dealer.  All of this occurred before even setting foot into a dealership.  When we did finally go to pick the car up, we signed the documents and drove away with the care within the hour. 

Not only did my husband use his communication skills to save our family time, he also was able to leverage a good deal and get our car under the estimated value.  I believe that he knew how to communicate with the car dealers, but he also anticipated their motivations and used this to get what he wanted.      

I would love to model some of my own communication skills after my husband.  He is extremely assertive and confident in both what he says and what he does, especially when communicating in business type situations.  I am the opposite of him, I am much more laissez-faire in my behavior and try to avoid conflict and appease everyone.  I feel that being more direct could benefit me in achieving tasks both personally and professionally. 





2 comments:

  1. Ashli,

    Wow, congratulations on a great deal! O'hair and Wiemann share that one of the functions of communication is to accomplish an objective; goal achievement. Your husband was sure focused on getting the job done and it sure paid off in the end, with more than one goal being met; the car you wanted, great financing, control of the situation, and customer satisfaction. Like you, I could sure use a page from his play book, I'm much more of a push over.

    O'- Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.

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  2. Ashli,

    Thank you for sharing. I enjoyed reading your blog assignment. I applaud you for being able to admit that your husband has skills and give him kudos, LOL. The qualities you mentioned that shows your husband's competence as a communicator are good ones. When a person is prepared, knowledgeable, confident and assertive, one can only hope success is the outcome as I too relate to a similar situation.

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