Relationship Reflection



Relationships and partnerships are very important.  As a person with an introverted personality, it has always been difficult for me to develop deep relationships with other people.  The relationships that I do have, have taken time and effort on both sides.  This means that every single person I have a relationship or partnership with truly knows me for the person I am and understands me as a person. 

Positive Relationships 


My Husband, Matt

                                               



The most important relationship that I have is the relationship with my husband, Matt.  We are truly a partnership in everything that we do, including parenting and the household.  Since we are complete opposites, we actually serve as compliments to each other.  Where I am emotional, he is logical.  Where I am a bit disorganized, he is the epitome of organization.  Having each other to balance the other out helps to create a very positive relationship.  Matt is always willing to do whatever it takes to make sure our family is taken care of.  It is an amazing feeling to have a partner so dedicated to the success of our relationship.  We make joint decisions regarding our daughter and share in each other's interests. While it hasn't always been easy, we try to live by the idea to love each other unselfishly.  I think this has made a huge impact in the success of our relationship.  In order to maintain our relationship, we both had to spend time learning about each other and making adjustments to our behavior and actions to compromise.  This was at times very challenging because often times we were on opposite sides of the spectrum.  We are still learning how to communicate effectively with one another, but never give up on making our lives together better. 

My daughter, Isabel

 The relationship I have with my daughter, Isabel is also extremely important to me.  This relationship is positive because it helps me to be the best person I know how to be.  I know that I am a role model for my daughter and strive to set the best example for her as possible.  I want the very best for her and, with the help of my husband, work tirelessly, to ensure that she is raised with good morals and values as well as an understanding of responsibility.  She is a very loving and thoughtful child and is in every sense of the word a "mommy's girl".  Supporting each other with unconditional love of one another is a huge contributor to our relationship.  Although she is only four years old, I do find some challenges with being a good parent and trying to maintain the relationship.  At times, I struggle with enforcing rules or helping my husband enforce some rules because I'm concerned about hurting her feelings or making her upset.  I try to use effective techniques such as communicating with her about the importance of rules and following directions. It continues to be a learning experience between all members of my family to function in a way that is the best for everyone. 



My group of friends

Another positive relationship I have  is with a group of friends I made in college.  They were all in my education program which gave us time to work together and get to know one another through several years.  All three of these girls share similar personality qualities with me and are all truly good people.  Although we are spread out in location, we all make an effort to see and talk to one another.  We are also very understanding about the fact that we lead very busy lives.  Even after months of not seeing one another, when we do see each other, it is easy to pick back up where we left off.  I know that anyone of them would do anything that I needed of them and I would also do the same.  Some challenges we have faced is time and location.  We all make efforts to spend time together or contact each other.  We are also all very understanding and don't get offended about time or other commitment restraints.  Although we face some challenges, it's wonderful to know that no matter what, I have a group of friends that will support me through anything. 



I believe I have a partnership with my husband.  We make joint decisions and consult one another about personal and professional concerns.  We work very well together and are more than just a relationship.  We rely on one another to make our lives successful.  I feel that my other relationships are not truly partnerships.  We do spend time with one another and work to develop and maintain strong bonds, but do not have a partnership in which we make joint decisions.  Perhaps as my daughter grows older, our relationship will develop more into a partnership in which she can participate more in the decision making about her life and our family life. 



My understanding of relationships and partnerships plays a large role in my work as an effective professional.  I understand that in order to best meet the needs of children, it is essential to develop partnerships and relationships with families.  Through understanding my own relationships, I know that it is difficult for me to build relationships, so in order to be an effective professional, I need to develop strategies to be more extroverted and open to building and exploring new relationships.  Through all of my relationships, I realize just how important communication is to maintain these relationships.  Communication is also essential to a positive relationship with children, parents, and families. The main characteristic I saw that set a partnership apart from a relationship was joint decision making.  This is very important to being an effective professional because I want to incorporate parents and families in the educational decisions concerning their child.  Pulling from my own personal experiences with relationships and partnerships will allow me to be a more effective early childhood professional.